As hard as tender. There drunkenness, indecency, curiosity to understand real life crossed by those who gave us life, who charge too. But there especially the re-rooting. In some ancient cultures it is said that everyone born on earth in charge of the lives of some family members. And if he wants to live his life on earth, there fulfill his destiny, he must be born again.
In this maternal bond fails, we count on siblings, to ensure our security needs. But we are not equal in siblings, we are individuals with our own personalities. Relationships between people are like invisible woven into pre-existing links. These links were there before us and govern our ways of responding, to oppose, to cherish. One can be terribly alone in his siblings.
The bitterness to become great is just the beginning of our adult responsibility: we must then protect childhood. And one way to protect children is to live his adult life, not the dream or envy or enrage