Play the child to focus on his own emotions, seeking to understand it when anger manifests for example, be aware that it is not necessarily easy to understand the world of the child but I YES that one falls a little too often in excess in the book ...
Some examples that struck me the most:
* "Camille him thought: my parents separated because of me (...) He contracted a very serious and rampant leukemia" (p.36) => I find the cause and frankly average effect. ..
* "There is no whim" (p.43) => again, still trying to remind us that we ourselves have been children ... Whether they're sometimes mistaken about what is considers to be YES and whims that one seeks to understand a little time is the situation YES BUT we consider the whims do not exist, it's a little excessive in my opinion ...
* A small child does not account the possible consequences of his actions when cutting a curtain or draw on the walls YES, we take the time to explain that this is not possible, it should draw or cut another medium YES BUT there to say that since our sister realized murals on the walls of the staircase can not prohibit children to draw on the walls of the home (p .47) it goes a bit too far for my taste there too ...
* We reduce our reactions to "love messages" or "destructive messages" (p.47) about the behavior of a child, it's a little fast to me => behaviors are somewhat more complex ...
* I am not a partisan of disagreement between the parents towards the child when it comes to react to his behavior under a "parents are people, they are not necessarily agree" ( p.49) and is more rewarding for the child => I understand the argument, but I deny again that children are not necessarily saints all the time ... They will quickly understand the points where mom or dad will be more or less permissive and react accordingly ... We were all children ... Do not forget ... So discuss education issues between YES parents because it is important for parents can compare their ideas (these are their children every second, they have the right to take part in all this education and temper the other sometimes) BUT there to do before the children ...
And I stop there in examples ...
All this to say that it is not on the principle that I have not joined because I am for better listening to the child BUT the potential excesses of the book ... so read A but with much away the risk of turning her child into child king ...
