Indispensable! 10 January 25 59

This book really helps me to "keep control" when I'm distraught to crises of my child. It offers an original and reasoned reading behaviors of our children: no they do not seek to provoke us or manipulate us, for the simple reason they do not have a mature enough brains to do it! This book helped me to not see malice or Machiavellian in the reactions of my child, and therefore to react properly, without dramatizing. We learn that crises are often caused by the parents themselves, and their lack of understanding of child psychology!

I regularly reread when I feel I loses it (my son was three years old, do not bother to make you drawing!). Case in point: for one week, no way to give a shower, or change a diaper or putting pajamas without screaming, crying or kicking (or all three at once). I read the chapter on the opposition there two days, and since everything is done more calmly ... Of course, it takes patience and time! But this calm is vital to family life.

I also really like this book because it takes a clear position against the slapping and spanking, with good arguments in support.

We can blame it to pass too quickly on some thorny issues (eg the bed), but also its synthetic side making it an affordable and easy tool to check. No big speeches, but simple explanations which quickly put things in their place.