Our difficulties in life often come from our inability to be ourselves: fear of conflict, our desire to be accepted and loved, we model what we want to perceive others, forgetting us and repressing our true desires and opinions . While often starts with our parents wanting to be loved, we play to the child (too) wise, or we replace the lost brother or sister, parent or disappeared party ... We also risk becoming the protector of a sick or depressed parent, while it is the child who needs to be protected ... When we could not have children we needed to build us correctly and become a balanced adult, we become incomplete beings, psychological suffering with depression, addictions, etc. This book is a revelation, very well written and very telling.
